Hills Relationship Centre Resource Library

You can still love someone even after deep betrayal. You can still crave closeness when your heart feels raw. If you’re lying awake wondering why desire and hurt can exist at the same time, this article speaks directly to that experience. Wanting Someone Who Hurt You Is More Common Than You Think After a betrayal, an affair, or a deep relational rupture, many people expect one thing: distance. They assume desire will disappear, love will shut down, and wanting their partner w

Struggling with intimacy? Learn why desire changes over time and how to reconnect emotionally and physically in your relationship.

Relationships are one of the most meaningful parts of our lives. They can bring deep joy, companionship, and a sense of belonging. At the same time, even strong relationships require care, attention, and ongoing effort. Over time, routines, stress, responsibilities, and life transitions can pull couples slightly out of sync. That’s normal. What matters most is how partners continue to nurture their connection and support one another. Healthy relationships tend to be built on

As much as we might not want to admit it, there’s no denying your sex life changes as you get older. Luckily, this isn’t always a bad thing. With age comes wisdom — including between the sheets. Our intuition and emotional connection to sex grows exponentially. We start to understand what it is we like in the bedroom as we get older, and we ask for that from the partners we choose to bring in. When in a long-term relationship, the comfort and familiarity that comes with this

The founder of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, is best known for his neuro-theories around sexuality and the unconscious mind (he coined the term ‘ego’!). Way back in the early 1900s, Freud identified a psychological dichotomy in his male patients known as the ‘Madonna-Whore complex’. Men (back then, but relevant to all genders now) with this complex saw women as either saints or prostitutes, loving the first and desiring the second — though never intertwining both. As Freud s

When we think of intimacy, our minds often jump straight to physical closeness or sexual connection. But intimacy is far more layered than that — it’s about how we let someone see, know, and feel us. It’s built from trust, shared moments, emotional safety, and the courage to be known. Healthy relationships thrive when couples nurture all forms of intimacy, not just one. Below are six types that contribute to a rich and connected partnership. You might notice that some come na