Relationship check-in questions are game changers when it comes to taking care of your marriage or partnership. Being open and vulnerable with your someone can help increase the sense of closeness you feel with them.
There are a lot of plus sides to being in an established relationship, but it's not uncommon for couples to report a lack of curiosity, connection and intimacy as they settle into their relationships and that exciting New Relationship Energy fades. When this happens, it can be hard to recapture the early spark that brought you closer together.
One of the best ways to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship is to remain curious about your partner and open yourself up to having more vulnerable conversations. This deepens the level of intimacy and builds on the emotional closeness that you feel with one another.
This month is the season of love, and we are focusing these questions on building intimacy, deepening connection and keeping the spark alight (or reigniting it if it's been feeling a little dim). Try going through the list to see what makes you curious and take turns asking each other questions.
What first attracted you to me?
Do you have a favorite memory of us as a couple?
What do you love about our relationship?
What in our relationship makes you feel safe?
What in our relationship makes you feel unsafe or uncomfortable?
Do you have any fears about our relationship?
Is there anything about our relationship that you’re struggling with right now?
What makes you feel loved?
How do you like to show love to others?
What was your first impression of me?
If you could magically create your ideal relationship, what would it look like?
What is your favorite date we’ve ever had together?
What is your favorite sexual memory of us?
When was the last time you cried? What did you cry about?
Do you have a bucket list or a list of things you want to do in this life?
What do you think are our strongest qualities as a couple?
How do we make each other a better team?
What do you think are our greatest weaknesses as a couple?
If you could have a meal with anyone who has ever lived, who would it be? What would you ask them? What would you eat?
If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?
Do you have any recurring dreams?
What’s something about yourself that you would like to change?
What’s something about yourself that you’re really proud of?
If you could be any fictional character, who would you want to be?
If you could travel in time, where would you go?
What are three things you admire about me?
What are three things you admire about yourself?
What’s your favorite part of your appearance?
What’s your favorite part of my appearance?
Do you have any sexual fantasies that you’d like to try out?
What’s a way you think we’ve grown as a couple since the start?
What is your dream retirement scenario?
What is the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?
Do you have any regrets?
What do you value more: careful planning or the freedom to be spontaneous?
If you could apologise to someone, who would it be?
What are you most grateful for?
What do you value most in a friendship?
What made you happy as a kid?
Is there anything that you miss doing that you used to do?
What do you wish you had more time for?
When do you feel the most at peace?
What soothes you the most on the back of bad news or a tough day?
Would you rather ask for help or figure it out yourself? Why?
What’s your favorite way to receive affection?
What is something I do or say that makes you feel loved?
Who or what are you most thankful for lately?
What do you feel most passionate about in life?
How do I help you to feel supported?
What do you love most about me?