Updated: Apr 22, 2019
Research shows that for counselling to be effective, you need to work with the right person. One that you connect with and feel you can trust. To help you get to know Jessie on a little more of a personal level, we asked her to share a little about herself.
What is something we would never guess about you?
I’ve lived in an ashram in India.
What is something you hate, but you wished you loved?
Swimming in our pool. The water has to be like a warm bath for me to get in. I wish that I loved it because my boys love going in, and as kids spell LOVE as T.I.M.E…it is time I’m not getting to delight in and with them.
What job would you be terrible at?
Working at a call centre, and it’s a job I’ve had. I’d also be terrible working in an abattoir, being that I’m a vegetarian.
If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance at winning medal for?
Super cuddles - I play and by the way, I’m the champion already of Super Cuddles. My kids try and get out of my super cuddle with no luck - unless I let them ‘win’ of course :)
When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?
When people come to me for help, it often comes in a variety of masks or forms - the underlying help they are seeking is with either self-acceptance and self-love, combined with a desire for relationship skills, in either communicating with their partner or parenting their children.
Why did you decide to do the work you are doing now?
Life! So cliché right, but still true. My upbringing taught me the skills of being empathetic and gave me the ability to ‘read’ other people’s needs and feelings really well. My own struggle with self-acceptance and self-love came in the form of an eating disorder.
Having studied primary school teaching and psychology at university, having a family, wanting to make an impact and difference in people’s lives (as the mental health professionals had done for me), alongside wanting the flexibility of being a mum and employed, owning and running my own business was my go to, number one dream.
They say that everyone has a book in them. What would your book be about?
Oh gosh, this will be a reality sooner rather than later! My book (for now) is about understanding ME, so I can have a clearer understanding and inquisitiveness about You, as we create a healthy, strong, We.
My boys have been the driving force in me taking on the task of writing such a special book, particularly my older son who needed support and love with his anxiety. This book was written out of desperation, love and need to be doing more to help him, kids like him and parents like me, going through the stress and trauma of an anxious child, or a child who expresses his emotions in not always clear or healthy ways (especially when his separation anxiety at school is triggered and overwhelming).
The next book within me will most likely be about parenting and the number one predictor of good enough parenting - Self-understanding and my own journey of self-discovery with the gifts and lessons from my children, marriage breakdown, business, friendships and hopefully new love.
You have learnt a lot in your career, what is the next thing you would like to learn?
Professionally, I’d like to learn more about the hidden epidemic of Male depression, its effects on men and the flow on effect to their families and children, and how to support them heal and feel past the depression.
Personally, I’d like to learn more about how to overcome my fears of being ’seen’ and living up to my full potential.
What are some of your personal “rules” that you try to never break?
1) Never release a cuddle before the kids do the wiggle, my signal that they are ready, seen, soothed, secure and safe to go back out into the world.
2) To PLAY
3) Only 3 coffees a day
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
I feel most grateful for my work, as it’s given me a deeper understanding of myself, as well as an identify outside of my loved labels of Mum, Sister, Daughter, Friend. My work also gives me access and exploration of who I am and how I am growing and changing. Also, I am so grateful for my Dad, he is a gem. It goes without saying, my two boys.
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