"Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship." - Brene Brown
The foundation for a lasting connection with your partner lies in truly understanding one another on a deeper level. An easy way to cultivate this type of intimate bond in your relationship is to ask each other relationship-building questions that foster open and meaningful conversations.
Whether your relationship is still in the honeymoon phase, or you've been together for many years, these questions can help you to share in each other's worlds and explore deeper aspects of yourselves and each other. This can help you to grow closer to each other and lead to greater trust, intimacy, connection and understanding, improving your relationship satisfaction.
Below are some relationship-building questions that you can work through with your someone.
Are you happy with our relationship?
How much have you changed since our first date?
How has our relationship enriched your life?
What is something that you've grown to understand about me?
In which ways are we compatible?
What are your top 3 expectations in a relationship?
What is a challenge that we have overcome together?
What do you love most about our relationship?
What does a successful relationship look like to you?
When do you feel most vulnerable in a relationship?
Do you think you make enough time to have deep conversations?
What are your biggest fears about our relationship?
How do you make time for connection when you're busy?
What ways do you like to connect with me throughout the day?
What do you think a healthy relationship should provide for the people in it?
What's one relationship rule you have for yourself that you'll never break?
What's the biggest mistake you've made in your life?
What's a time in your life you've found particularly challenging and why?
Which couple moments do you treasure the most?
How important is intimacy to you?
What does a fulfilling sex life look like to you?
Are there any sexual fantasies you're interested in exploring?
Which of my characteristics are your favourite?
Which of my qualities makes you feel most secure?
What's something you'd love to do that's outside your comfort zone?
How would you like me to show that I value and appreciate you?
What do you need from me if you've had a bad day?
How do you tend to react to unplanned or negative events?
How can I better support you during difficult times?
What do you feel is my biggest strength when it comes to dealing with crisis?
How do you tend to respond when you don't get the attention that you need from your partner?
How do you like to show interest and excitement for each other's accomplishments?
What's one thing you can do to make our relationship stronger tomorrow?
What kind of support do you expect from your partner on a daily basis?
How much communication do you need in a relationship?
What should couples share with one another?
What shouldn't couples share?
Do you think happy couples argue? Why or why not?
How much time do you think your partner should spend with friends vs with you?
What values do you think we share?
When do you feel most emotionally connected to me?
What's something you do to keep the spark alive in our relationship?
How can we both keep showing up for each other?
What's one way you'd like to spend more quality time together?
Is there anything about yourself that you'd like to change?
What makes you feel grateful for me?
Are you where you pictured you'd be in your life right now?
When you picture the future, what do you see?
What's one of your favourite memories together?
Do you have any hobbies that you'd like me to join in with?
Is there anything stopping us from having more fun together?
When do you not want or need physical affection?
How do you like to make up after an argument or disagreement?
What topics do you find most difficult to open up about with me?
What's the most productive argument we've ever had?
What's your favourite way for your partner to initiate sex?
Do you feel like you have enough alone time?
What goals are we working toward together?
How important is compromise to you in a relationship?
What are some compromises you've made hat have benefited your relationship?
What's one thing you can do to become a better partner?
We hope these questions helped you to connect with each other on a deeper level. If you would like to see more of these Conscious Connection questions and conversation prompts, be sure to follow us on Instagram and subscribe to our monthly newsletter. We share prompts to spark connection each month.